The only thing the winder does, other than exercise the oscillating weight, is change the position of the watch. All I can add to the plan of winding the watch and letting it run down is to put it in different positions over time. That will offset the gravitational effect.
Guys, the bottom line is these things will last a lifetime if properly cared for. The difference in the actual wear to the parts from all the different strategies would not be measurable as long as you get it serviced at the recommended interval. I have a collection of railroad pocket watches that still keep time to railroad standards after 100 years. They were required to be serviced on a regular schedule.
Yes Roff, there is an abundance of carcasses out there. When you really want to be humbled, try a tiny 4.5 ligne ladies movement. All kidding aside, you can still get a lot of parts for the Swiss ebauche movements from some of the parts houses, so repairs can be accomplished. On occasion, you can bring one back from the dead.

Speaking of dead, I think we killed this horse.
